You have a price tag.
Before you get all offended and accuse me of being an objectifying insert mildly inappropriate noun here, hear me out. Too many times in my life, I’ve heard both women and men complain to each other about a person who is “out of their league” or a job “they’re just not qualified for.” To me, this is the ultimate form of personal degradation. By being overly critical of yourself, you’re repressing potential opportunities for success and happiness. When you say and think negative things about yourself, it lowers your inherent value – otherwise known as your personal price tag.
Your personal price tag is an indication of how much you believe you’re worthy of. Do you believe you’re worthy of a healthy and loving relationship? Do you believe you’re worth more than the income you’re currently earning? Those are the questions your price tag answers. So if you’re standing there telling other people that you don’t deserve this, and you’re not good enough for that, think about the type of message you’re sending. Trust me, it’s not a flattering one. If you’re saying those things to be modest, stop. There’s a huge difference between modesty and self deprecation, and it’s important to be able to distinguish the two. People who are successfully modest may brush off compliments, but they will never deny that they deserve what they achieved.
Now, how do you go about determining your price tag? The most important aspect is to be honest in your evaluation of yourself and the people around you. For example, let’s say there’s a guy you’ve been interested in who you fear is “out of your league.” What makes this person so unattainable in your eyes? Perhaps he has a higher GPA than you and is more conventionally attractive. Okay, fine. But what about you? You volunteer at the local animal shelter and you’ve been told you have absolutely stunning eyes. To me (you should also share this opinion), those are equally valuable traits. So there is no reason why you’re not worthy of taking a stab at this potential chance at happiness. That’s how you give yourself an appropriate price tag.
You should apply this process to every aspect of your life. Here’s a warning though: if you’re not honest in your evaluations, you will end up disappointed in life. Guaranteed. Don’t be one of those individuals who thinks he or she is free of any flaws or need for improvement and prance around rejecting every job offer and date because they’re not good enough for you. It doesn’t work that way. Plus, it’s really obnoxious and nobody will like you. Be honest, mark yourself with a generous price tag and life will dole out what you deserve.